VinTage FrumTeens (aka "The Mod Squad")

SCHAR V'ONESH-----video of my life?

2010-10-03T14:30:00.002-04:00

Lsheva Posted - 23 September 2003 13:28 Ok, i know hashem is all good and everything. But then how could it be, if the worst thing in the world is to embarrass someone, that when we go to the heavens after 120 that Hashem shows every one your whole life and all your avierot? This is beyond embarrassing and painful. I know it’s probably not totally accurate but it must have some truth to it

FACTIONS-----tide and r hirsch 2

2010-08-11T18:05:00.002-04:00

Alexander Posted - 18 March 2010 0:56 Dear Moderators: Could you please unambiguously clarify the following? 1) Satmar Rav's position on working. Why? For Whom (only Satmar or suggestion to Klal Israel in general), Based on what sources? 2) Philosophy of K'Hal Adath Jeshurun "KAJ under Rav Breuer and his successors continues to adhere to the philosophy of "Independent Orthodoxy"which

ZIONISM / ANTI-----r henkin 2

2010-04-23T14:05:00.005-04:00

Ary Posted - 22 April 2010 22:23 Listen!!!!! I can’t believe that you represent the view of Gedolim like this! Your quotes represent R" Henkin's view BEFORE THE ESTABLISHMENT OF THE STATE OF ISRAEL. If you look at R' Henkin's view AFTER THE ESTABLISHEMENT he actually says in his teshuva that ONE SHOULD THANK HASHEM FOR THE MIRACLES THAT HE DID FOR US WITHIN ERETZ YISRAEL. He states that

MISC----losing olam haba

2009-12-13T12:50:00.001-05:00

ProudlyJewish Posted - 12 May 2009 15:22--------------------------------------------------------------------------------I was learning Halacha, and found that if you embarrass someone publicly, you lose your share in olam haba. Is there anything you can do to repent? Does this sin go away on Yom Kippur?There are SO many sins that cause you to lose your olam haba, it seems hardly anyone would get

MISC-----authority of rabbis

2009-09-16T17:35:00.002-04:00

tanteePosted - 03 March 2009 13:10O.K. Here goes.I hope that I can get this issue clear once and for all.What is the Authority of a Rav?What makes someone a "Gadol"?In what situation are we meant to listen to them. Is it only in inyanei halacha?If a Rav gives someone advise, does that mean that he has to listen to it.Are the Gedolim the Manhigei hador?What is the authority of Rav Elyashiv? What

FACTIONS-----GRA vs Baal Shem Tov

2009-07-09T17:13:00.002-04:00

satinsword13 Posted - 16 June 2009 18:17--------------------------------------------------------------------------------A question that bothered me for a while:If the GRA was the gadol hador at the time of the baal shem tov, and he came out so absolutely strongly against chassidus, so much so that he wanted to put them in cherem, how come we can even consider going near it? I say this not out of

FACTIONS-----modern orthodox / the bottom line

2008-12-07T10:40:00.001-05:00

(revised 12/7/08)trying2shteig Posted - 28 August 2008 9:51I was reading the thread LINK and it just got really long and too tough to follow.So I didn't really see if there is a "definition" of modern orthodox. could the mod give a simple yet encompassing definition of Modern? I’m curious to see if it's the same as mine....MODERATOR Posted - 28 August 2008 10:07There is no definition. It means

HALACHA-----beards payos and shaving

2008-11-19T18:07:00.004-05:00

jj Posted - 12 January 2001 15:17________________________________________Hi, I would like to ask two things.1) could you please tell me the different shitos regarding shaving and trimming why some people don’t do it at all etc. and2)if the whole point of having payos is that al pi kabala you should never cut it, then why do yeshiva bochrim have payos behind their ears? they should only have like

CHIZUK-----worth living for 1 mitzva

2008-08-06T17:13:00.002-04:00

Elchonon Posted - 05 September 2004 15:30 I'm sorry if I sound blatant but-Why get up in the morning? I feel no desire to. I probably do 80% aveiros and maybe 20% mitzvos. So why get up just to make Hashem disappointed and anger Him? The only reason I get up is because I have a chiyuv. I must daven. But if I didn't have a chiyuv I might not have gotten up some days this summer. Why

ZIONISM / ANTI-----agudah

2008-08-04T17:19:00.002-04:00

Matisyohu28 Posted - 31 July 2008 8:24 Mod - the Agudah voted to be for the creation of the medina??? This is all news to me...and what kind of regular Rabbonim would have the chutzpah to vote against Reb Elchonon and Reb Ahron??? What do they think this is, America? MODERATOR Posted - 31 July 2008 10:11 No, they didn’t vote for the creation of a Medinah, c"v. they voted for

FACTIONS-----chasidim and their hanhagos

2008-07-28T17:15:00.004-04:00

Aharon Shmuel Posted - 05 December 2001 15:56 I have a few questions mabye this has been discussed in several sections. As a BT who has learned much about yiddishkeit from all different types of Chassidishe groups (I have had very little exposure to the litvish communities) I noticed that I do some things quite differently that it seems only Chassidishe people do and I don't really

ZIONISM / OATHS-----the binding nature

2008-07-21T17:28:00.002-04:00

MODERATOR Posted - 15 July 2008 7:44 Thanks fo"f. Also important to note is not only the fact that the Shevuos are quoted l'maaseh in Chazal, Rishonim and Achronim and have been used throughout the ages, but also that there has been nobody who disagreed with them or their binding nature (until the Zionists came and, as they have done with Jewish history (see Israel's Declaration of

HALACHA-----summer halachos

2008-07-16T17:51:00.000-04:00

MODERATOR Posted - 16 July 2008 13:45 1) Summer vacation presents a rare opportunity to learn Torah for those who are normally occupied with making a living or in school. Every man is obligated to set aside at least two times for learning each day - one during the day and one during the night. The halacha demands that any extra time we have be used for learning Torah. 2) Spending time reading

WOMEN-----learning torah VII

2008-07-16T17:14:00.002-04:00

sandythedog Posted - 16 July 2008 10:32 I know that there are debates and discussions on what women can learn. This is what I have understood from other posts:-not gemara/torah sheb'al peh -rashi might be okay, bc it explains torah -and if for learning halacha, something that a girl should know, that's okay. So a girl could look up something in the gemara, such as halachot of davening,

CHUKAS AKUM-----4th of july

2008-07-07T17:12:00.002-04:00

kuriyus Posted - 04 July 2006 14:26 Are Jews allowed to celebrate the 4th of July? like putting out a flag? MODERATOR Posted - 04 July 2006 15:14 yes, you are allowed, and yes, you should celebrate the 4th of July. You’re not obligated to put out a flag, but it is a good thing to do (Rav Avigdor Miller ZTL and Rav Pam ZTL used to do it every year). We should have gratitude to

BITACHON-----hashgacha pratis vs. klalis

2008-07-07T17:05:00.004-04:00

MistakesHelp16 Posted - 06 July 2008 15:46 A few years ago I learned a k'li yakar in Chumash class, and it was about hashgacha pratit. I may be wrong, but I distinctly remember learning that not everyone merits hashgacha pratit...only the tzadikim. Nonjews and Jews who are not tzadikim only merit hashgacha klallit. Is this true, or did I totally misconstrue the whole k'li yakar?? If

HALACHA-----halacha vs chumra

2008-03-10T17:13:00.009-04:00

Yoredes Posted - 08 May 2001 20:28 We had a discussion in class about my Chumrah vs. Halacha issue a little while ago, before I even knew about this web sight. I also spoke to a teacher I respect about it, but it didn't help. One of the main recent examples is T.V. and Internet. My teachers claim that they are ASSUR, but I know that that can't be so. I think that for sure T.V., and

LUBAVITCH-----rambam yomi

2008-02-29T14:18:00.002-05:00

MODERATOR Posted - 28 February 2008 12:43 The issue with the Rambam Yomi is quite simple. The Rambam can be learned 2 ways: 1) As a halachah sefer2) as a commentary on the Gemora If you learn it as #2, then you shouldn’t follow the order of the Rambam but rather the order of the Gemora and then see how the Rambam understood the Gemora to reach his halachic conclusion. Unless you’re

ZIONISM / ANTI-----r henkin

2008-02-25T17:16:00.001-05:00

MODERATOR Posted - 24 February 2008 16:16 Flippedoutfish posted something about some Zionist book out there that claims that Rav Henkin was a Zionist c"v or something like that. I didn’t see the book but I’d bet that they are recycling the old statement from Rav Henkin about something he saw in HaChomah - a Neturei Karta EY magazine, where he says not to pester the Israeli government

ZIONISM / RELIGIOUS-----the true motivation

2008-02-18T14:13:00.001-05:00

FS613 Posted - 14 February 2008 12:48 Rabbi Moderator:I understand why secular Jews don't understand that Zionism is wrong, according to the Torah;but why don't religious Jews understand that Zionism is wrong, according to the Torah? The evidence is very clear, that it's against the Torah and the 3 Oaths, besides the fact that Jewish life is governed by the Torah, not by the

WOMEN-----zimun

2008-02-08T13:39:00.000-05:00

MODERATOR Posted - 07 February 2008 19:12 There is a machlokes whether women who eat by themselves are obligated in zimun. Green decided to pasken like the GRA, who says they are obligated, but Rashi and Tosfos (Brachos 45b) and the Shulchan Aruch (OH 199) hold they are not. The Mishna Brura says that the prevalent custom is not like the GRA. The Mishna Brura explains that Chazal never

ZIONISM / RELIGIOUS-----propaganda

2008-02-08T13:33:00.000-05:00

FlippedOutFish Posted - 06 February 2008 19:44 Did you receive my email? That’s why I wanted a consensus of all poskim on these issues. MODERATOR Posted - 08 February 2008 7:55 I got your email. I will answer bli neder, but I can only do it when I have some time to breathe. I will explain at length, but what I said before is still true - what you are asking for will not help.

HASHKOFO-----mesorah

2008-01-18T14:20:00.000-05:00

MODERATOR Posted - 11 January 2008 10:08 Hi flipped, I noticed that on more than one place on the site (Zionism and secular studies come to mind) after an entire discussion of the issues, you ask for or mention the need for some kind of rundown on every godols' opinion on the matter. Two things about this: 1) Of course its good to know what relevant people hold about an issue, but if (

ZIONISM-----eilu v'eilu? 3 (updated 1/14/08)

2008-01-02T17:49:00.000-05:00

FlippedOutFish Posted - 02 January 2008 9:09 The Mod has quoted the Pardes article repeatedly about Rabbi Wasserman, Rabbi Kotler, Rabbi Rottenberg from Antwerp, and rabbis from Czechoslovakia and Hungary were unanimous in rejecting any proposal for a "Jewish State". Accepted But how do you explain the view of the other Rabbanim as stated:"Admo"rim from Boyan and Sadigora, Rav Tzirelson

BECHIRAH-----if hashem knows the future...? 2

2007-08-02T17:44:00.000-04:00

st5785 Posted - 12 December 2001 15:47 I have an interesting question that i never got an answer to! How can we be given a choice to do something if Hashem know what we're going to do? And how can we be punished for something we did, well Hashem knew we were going to do it!!! MODERATOR Posted - 13 December 2001 15:32 Just because Hashem knows what you’re going to do doesn’

HALACHA-----honesty/ copyright laws 3

2007-08-02T17:24:00.000-04:00

talmid Posted - 11 September 2005 11:51 Are you allowed to copy cds. why is it mutar or assur? MODERATOR Posted - 11 September 2005 12:47 I mentioned this years ago, but this question keeps coming up, so I'll go over it again: Whether you are permitted to copy a CD depends: If you would have bought that CD and instead are copying it, then you may not copy it because you are

MISC-----who is a godol

2007-07-25T17:35:00.000-04:00

MODERATOR Posted - 22 January 2006 7:11 Posted - 24 October 2001 19:38--------------------------------------------------------------------------------The trick here is to make an objective decision. This includes whether you are determining on your own if someone is a godol, or even if you want to determine who is a maven on who is a godol so you will have someone from whom to take

WOMEN-----making ha'motzei

2007-07-20T13:35:00.000-04:00

shosh234 Posted - 09 May 2001 14:32 Have you ever heard of this minhag of the wife making ha'motzei on shabbos? is it mutar? MODERATOR Posted - 09 May 2001 16:22 Hamotzi for the family? No such Minhag. Whether it is mutar depends on why she is doing it. If it because the husband cannot for whatever reason, it's OK. If it's because

SHIDDUCHIM-----physical attraction

2007-07-09T16:32:00.000-04:00

MODERATOR Posted - 04 February 2002 17:30 Physical attraction is an important ingredient in a marriage. It's kind of the cement that holds a relationship together. Yes, 2 ppl with good Midos will probably get along, but merely "getting along" is not enough to hold a marriage together, surely not to make it flourish the way it can.So no, you shouldn't need the fourth of July, but marrying someone

SHIDDUCHIM-----yichus problems

2007-07-05T18:52:00.000-04:00

Tamar Posted - 03 August 2000 12:39 I realize that this is a very upsetting topic, but I have nobody to talk to, and I am very worried. My family is modern, but I am trying my hardest to live a real, frum life.My brother (he is 24) recently told me and my parents that he has decided to live a homosexual lifestyle. My parents don't care that it is a toava, and have continued to speak to

EMUNAH-----proofs and Hashem

2007-06-28T17:23:00.000-04:00

laugh alot Posted - 03 November 2006 9:55 I am a BY girl and I fully believe that there is a G-d but I have a question - how do we know that that G-d is Hashem like the Muslims believe in a G-d why is there G-d wrong there is just one G-d so whatever u call it isn’t I just G-d is there a reason why we have to believe G-ds's name is Hashem? MODERATOR Posted - 03 November 2006 12:35

HALACHA-----opposite gender conduct 2

2007-06-25T17:48:00.000-04:00

Eliza Posted - 30 October 2000 15:18 One of my closest and oldest friends happens to be a guy. We've been friends since we were four years old, we have done everything together. He is like my brother that i never had (I'm an only child) and I can't give up this relationship because i grew older. Is that so terrible??MODERATOR Posted - 30 October 2000 15:20 It doesn't matter

EMUNAH-----emunah peshuta 2

2007-06-24T11:49:00.000-04:00

philo613 Posted - 15 June 2007 7:45 Is it better to have Emunah Pshuta and simply not investigate these Hashkafic questions? I mean, there are thousands of discussions about specifics both in Hashkafa and other questions. Besides, if one gets to far into these discussions, one risks arriving at a wrong conclusion, and Chas V’sholom, losing their share in Olam habah, depending on how

MISC-----the concept of eilu veilu

2007-06-24T11:42:00.000-04:00

philo613 Posted - 13 June 2007 9:05 (This is my third attempt at posting my question, If this is also posted elsewhere, I'm sorry for my incompetence) I have a question about the way Jewish Hashkafa works in general. I know of the concept of “Eylu V’Eylu Divrei Elokim Chaim,” and that this concept is applied to show that, while we might hold by only one opinion in terms of Halacha, the

HALACHA-----tznius/ mixed swimming

2007-06-13T17:52:00.001-04:00

m.u.g Posted - 18 January 2002 16:49 I was reading about the mixed gym thing which you said was assur.Then how come so many frum ppl can go to the beach if there are only non-jews around.I am told that you don't need to be tznius around non Jews.MODERATOR Posted - 20 January 2002 20:34 You may not go mixed swimming even if the men are only Goyim. This is because of the Middah of

MISC-----why not the best of both worlds?

2007-06-13T17:48:00.001-04:00

believerinHashem Posted - 05 May 2002 18:47 If I believe that there is a Hashem, and He gave a Torah to the Jews, and that Torah we have now is the one He gave, and I try to fulfill Hashem's mitzvot, I have a ticket to Olam Haba.So then certain things in this world, that are not against the Torah, like non-jewish music, why can't I have the best of both worlds? Although its not good for

CHIZUK-----for extreme nisayon 2

2007-06-13T17:38:00.001-04:00

oksonowwhat Posted - 07 March 2002 17:05 I have a major problem. at work there is a non-jewish guy who is very nice and very good looking (and single). i find it to be a big challenge for me to work with someone like this since I'm single and wishing i were married. Why would Hashem do this to me? doesn't he realize how vulnerable i am. why did he cause a non accessible person to join

CHIZUK-----nichshal with guys

2007-06-13T17:36:00.000-04:00

confused girl Posted - 11 April 2001 15:24 I'm really sorry to write a personal question here, I just don't really know where else to turn. I very recently just ended this relationship I had with this guy. It still hurts so much because i still like him so much. I only ended it because I guess I know it's the right thing to do deep down (I'm 16)-but it feels anything but the right thing

SHIDDUCHIM-----why the need for?

2007-06-13T17:22:00.000-04:00

davewabux3 Posted - 27 July 2001 20:43 I am a religious boy 19 years old and have been reading the past couple of messages. They all say that talking to the opposite sex is asur. Can I just ask where exactly in the Torah it says this? Also, at what age does the Torah say its mutar?I know someone who is now 21 and not married. She has gone on 15 dates and 75% of those dates the guy

HASHEM-----why not create just olam haba? 2

2007-06-13T17:08:00.000-04:00

rosie16 Posted - 21 May 2003 19:44 I don’t think it is fair that we are born in the first place. I don’t understand the purpose of the world and I know that ppl say it’s to do mitzvos but the majority of the world sins and will be punished. This world is filled with pleasures that end fast to trap us and then I look forward to burning in the next world. I just don’t see a point in

HALACHA-----opposite gender conduct

2007-06-12T17:51:00.000-04:00

Star Posted - 11 December 2000 15:52 Okay, sometimes when my bro's friends are over, I'll talk to them, not in a not tznius way but in a haimish way. Like we'll talk about something and my brother is there the whole time. This can not lead to anything because my they are my brother's friends and some of them are really not my type and I don't want to do something that's wrong like have a

CHIZUK-----judaism is not for me

2007-06-11T18:22:00.000-04:00

ekant Posted - 13 August 2002 17:37 I have a problem with Judaism. With the way you frum people see it. I should tell you that I was brought up very religious, and that my family still is.But not me. I can't. Religion, the way I see it, has only been a source of frustration.Always.I remember when I was a little kid; I already used to feel that way. Going to school on Sunday, having

TORAH and SCIENCE-----age of the world / carbon dating

2007-05-20T10:56:00.000-04:00

eeesther Posted - 23 August 2003 21:48 But the "age" of fossils is established by carbon-dating which measures the amount of radiation present in the isotope? MODERATOR Posted - 23 August 2003 21:56 Carbon-14 dating rests on two assumptions. (a)that the amount of carbon-14 in the atmosphere has always been constant, and (b) its rate of decay has always been constant.

TORAH and SCIENCE-----dinosaurs

2007-05-20T10:50:00.000-04:00

Jess1246 Posted - 21 July 2004 11:03 Moderator,What about dinosaurs?In all of the books about Creation/evolution etc, there isn't the slightest mention of dinosaurs, which leads me to believe that there isn't an explanation for the existence of dinosaurs which accommodates Jewish belief, since it seems that they inhabited the earth long before humans....? MODERATOR Posted - 21 July

TORAH and SCIENCE-----evolution and fossils

2007-05-20T10:42:00.000-04:00

bubbles Posted - 21 August 2003 19:19 I know this question is probably going to sound ignorant to some people, but I am still in the process of learning about religious Judaism. Anyway, I know that Judaism does not support the theory of evolution, and neither do I. I also know that no transitional fossils (that would have to exist in order for evolution to be true) have ever been

HASHEM------emotions? 2

2007-05-15T17:19:00.000-04:00

UGoGirl Posted - 11 August 2003 3:34 If there is a topic about this already, can s/o please tell me where. Otherwise, this has been bothering me for a while.Does God love certain people more than others? Does He love the righteous people more than He likes me?It seems to make sense, yet it's so scary. MODERATOR Posted - 11 August 2003 3:43 Well, when we use the verb "

FACTIONS-----chasidus 2

2007-04-29T11:01:00.000-04:00

okdok Posted - 06 February 2004 8:31 Moderator: “And by the way, your idea of chasidus is a folklore version of it, not the real thing” Ok, could you explain to me then what Chasidus is all about according to your understanding? MODERATOR Posted - 06 February 2004 9:52 In the Different Types of Orthodoxy forum, Chasidus is discussed. In short, it was teachings that enable its

HALACHA-----tznius/ chumras

2007-04-27T15:45:00.000-04:00

grend123 Posted - 30 December 2001 22:24 I'm posting this here because it seems appropriate; move it if you have a better place.Mod, something you said in another forum (halachos for the summer, sandals without socks) truly amazed me, and I wanted to move the discussion to a place where others are more likely to see it and maybe comment. I pointed out to you that Rav Moshe held

HALACHA-----tznius/ whats it all about

2007-04-26T17:30:00.000-04:00

sarchie Posted - 20 October 2000 18:52 I know its halacha for women to cover their elbows, knees, color bones, etc but can you just explain to me what is so 'nice' about an elbow? Collar bone and knee I understand, but an elbow is actually ugly. Since Tznius is not a chok, then there are reasons why we do it. Seeing a women’s elbow I don’t think would cause a guy to sin. Why is it

FACTIONS-----breslov 2

2007-04-23T17:06:00.000-04:00

pop4lol Posted - 28 March 2007 15:59 I understand how and why there is a problem with lubavitch. I would like to understand if how and why there is a problem with breslev. please answer taon Posted - 28 March 2007 16:23 There's no problem with breslov, because they don't believe their Rebbe is alive, or Moshiach or any of the problems people have with lubavitch. the whole

CHIZUK-----nichshal on the internet 2

2007-04-19T17:19:00.000-04:00

Aquilus Posted - 18 April 2007 9:31 Hello guys,I have been experiencing internet pornography addition for over ten years and have been in denial about it half of that time.Suffice it to say that over the years I have been feeling the same things as you guys and I have found no solution.As a somewhat knowledgeable programmer and sysadmin at this point, I must say that there is no

HALACHA-----tznius/ jeans and denim

2007-04-18T18:31:00.000-04:00

chochma Posted - 14 February 2001 4:31 My school really dislikes jeans/denim. I think it’s a bunch of hogwash and poppycock (lol) what’s up wid dat?! I mean they say it makes you look like a farmer and this and that and the other thing and Im like so what? farming is cool. I have some Very nice skirts, and I think rules like this really have nothing to do with Tznius at all - why are

Misc-----Jonathan Pollard

2007-04-17T16:54:00.000-04:00

MODERATOR Posted - 17 April 2007 8:20 Sigh. Please read what I wrote again. This is from December 31st:"...That having been said, as rachmanim and gomlei chasadim we should help people even if their sentence was fair. That’s what rachmanus is. However, in this case, helping him must be done in a way so as not to give the message that we think his crime was anything less than an

HALACHA-----shopping for a psak

2007-04-15T13:45:00.000-04:00

Yaakov1 Posted - 30 December 2001 22:24 I'm a little unclear the idea of "shopping around" for poskim. Once a posek is asked something and he gives a psak, is it ever mutar to ask someone else who is meikle?I had a question about studying for school on Yom Tov. There was a huge test right after Sukkos and I didn't know what to do. I asked one posek who said it was assur, but when I told

HALACHA-----tznius/ rabbi falks sefer

2007-04-12T18:57:00.000-04:00

Star Posted - 04 December 2000 18:53 Could one wear a skirt that is just covering the knees? Where does that "4 inches from the knee" come from? MODERATOR Posted - 04 December 2000 18:59 All you have to do is cover the knee. There is no such thing as 4 inches below in Halachah. However, the knee must be covered even when sitting and walking as well, and if your skirt just covers

HALACHA-----tznius/ pants

2007-03-26T17:24:00.000-04:00

shana Posted - 14 December 2000 2:16 Is it halachicly wrong to wear pants now in days, because pants are no longer considered "beged ish"? and is it better to wear pants, or a skirt that does not cover the knees? MODERATOR Posted - 14 December 2000 2:32 Pants are still prohibited nowadays. Even if there is no prohibition of beged

TEEN ISSUES-----wearing makeup

2007-03-23T13:43:00.000-04:00

shannny Posted - 23 April 2001 15:50 Is it wrong for a teenage girl to wear makeup? MODERATOR Posted - 23 April 2001 16:33 Depends what age, what community, and what kind of makeup. When we say something is "good looking" it means different things in different contexts. When we say "That's a beautiful mountain", "beautiful" means "majestic"; a "beautiful deer" means graceful; a

CHIZUK-----life is not black and white

2007-03-21T17:32:00.000-04:00

igwtf Posted - 04 September 2001 18:10 I was raised in a really frum home. We’re really strict on issues. Well this summer I went with a few friends to work, earn some cash... By our place there were boys nearby we started speaking, met them late at night. Then I didn’t care anymore for Torah issues.That one month basically changed my life. Now we keep in touch with the phone...I used to

TEEN ISSUES-----parents are not perfect

2007-03-21T17:25:00.001-04:00

CC613 Posted - 10 January 2003 8:06 I really need some help- last I overheard a conversation between my parents- I was in the other room- they didn't realize that I could hear them. From what I heard- my mother somehow found out that my father has been having some sort of close relationship via e-mail, and the telephone, with another woman- for 10 years! And he was hiding it from my

TEEN ISSUES-----what is a friend?

2007-03-15T17:13:00.000-04:00

one Posted - 25 August 2000 9:07 What does it mean to be a friend?MODERATOR Posted - 27 August 2000 19:04 A friend is someone that you can tell anything to, even if you did an aveirah. That definition comes from Rav Michoel Furschlogger ZT"L, a student of the great Avnei Nezer, the son-in-law of the Kotzker Rebbe. He figured that out because concepts are always defined by the

MISC-----asking questions 2

2007-03-14T17:05:00.000-04:00

ecskmi Posted - 20 May 2001 15:30 What I think Rachel is saying is- why in the frum would if you are confused with issues and don’t really understand why you should be doing them, or keeping them, instead of working with the problem, we are termed "bad" or "messed up" or something similar. Why is everything for what they think should be right, what they think is best- they never look at

HALACHA-----platonic relationships 2

2007-03-12T18:43:00.000-04:00

asdfg Posted - 01 September 2000 22:59 Well, after 4 days I stopped smoking. I haven’t smoked since last Wednesday. I’ve been influenced by this girl. She’s been really great. She was against but didn’t treat me like I was nothing even when I was smoking. Moderator, I know that according to you a girl can’t help me but I would have to say that helping me to stop smoking is very positive.

ZIONISM-----safe haven? 2

2007-03-12T17:15:00.000-04:00

Caleb Posted - 13 February 2005 7:47 Mod- 1. Sorry if this question has been answered or addressed with elsewhere. 2. I'm a complete ignoramus so I apologize if it comes out in my question Surely, the existence of the State of Israel can be justified by the tremendous number of deaths and general persecution of the Jews in Europe throughout our exile. History told us that we could not

TEEN ISSUES-----drugs and alcohol

2007-03-11T14:16:00.000-04:00

DORTY Posted - 19 June 2000 16:07 With a drug such as marijuana... not dangerous. What exactly is the problem?I understand this is a gateway drug... but I don't think that it necessarily leads to worse. Besides, is there a Torah prohibition? I've heard that the kohanim used to use some form of "weed" in their service in the Bais Hamikdash... is this possible? MODERATOR Posted - 01 December 2000 17:13 In general, to start working. There are poskim who prohibit college altogether, and usually it is easier to fulfill your Torah standards and goals while working than

CHIZUK-----for lack of yichus

2007-02-19T08:56:00.000-05:00

nacorom1 Posted - 18 February 2007 8:13 Dearest Rabbi,I have a question that's been plaguing me for some time now. I was adopted by Jewish parents from goyishe parents (I know for sure they are goyish) I was born to a 16 yr old girl who was just having some "fun"Here's my question. What are the chances for me when it comes to my neshama? I know that one has to work on himself and do

TEEN ISSUES-----problems with the school system

2007-02-18T10:45:00.000-05:00

MODERATOR Posted - 14 August 2000 15:57 The biggest complaints frum teenagers have today - even more than about their parents - are about their schools. Not about too much homework, or mean teachers, or the typical "teenage" complaints. Rather, they express anger, bitterness, disbelief, shock, and even tears, over what they feel is an abandonment of their needs by their schools, in favor

TEEN ISSUES-----standing up for yourself

2007-02-18T10:34:00.000-05:00

PinteleYid Posted - 15 December 2000 14:07 I have a question as to how to respond. Firstly, I am a senior. Regardless of this, kids know they cannot pick on me out of kovod for this title. There are two boys at school, who, when make a joke with me, over extend the joke and turn it into a thing that seems to intentionally disturb me. The other one will do the same thing, but with a

TEEN ISSUES-----marry a kollel guy?

2007-02-15T17:45:00.000-05:00

modehani Posted - 04 July 2006 14:26 I really want a husband who plans on learning long term, for as long as possible. I have a pretty good job b"h with various work opportunities for side jobs. The "problem" is that even though I have a decent means for supporting, my parents don't have money. Plus, I've grown up without money and am not a demanding person in terms of materialism-I

TALMUD TORAH-----for those not destined to be gedolim

2007-02-14T17:38:00.000-05:00

Ani Yehudi Posted - 12 July 2001 21:23 OK, so Gemora contains a little of everything, but shouldn't practical halacha -Mishna Berura - be one of the first things we learn - seeing that halachos are often unclear from Gemora, particularly on the level we have time to cover? MODERATOR Posted - 12 July 2001 21:40 For someone who only has a few hours a day to learn, that is indeed

MISC-----the bris shalom and pinchus

2007-02-14T17:27:00.000-05:00

e Posted - 21 November 2000 18:59 I wrote before about my stuffed up school- and now things have gotten really bad and tons of adults wanna make a new school or kick out the management. This has happened in one or two boys schools and when they opened new schools major machlokes started and this would also. But, is people's lives, (literally ppl get destroyed and go anti-frum) and

HASHKOFO-----ikrim and tinok sh'nishba 2

2007-02-14T16:27:00.000-05:00

21 Posted - 22 January 2001 21:46 Moderater, could you please elaborate, perhaps in a different thread, about who is and who is not considered a tinuk shenishba and whether they will be punished when moshiach comes and not merit tchiyas hameysim. I saw an interesting meshech chochma in bo where he says that by a mitzvas lo sasai you can rely on a chazaka (e.g. eruv that it's kosher)

TALMUD TORAH-----kollel 12

2007-02-13T18:01:00.000-05:00

LostandConfused Posted - 30 November 2005 16:05 As a senior in high school, I find that whenever a group of us gets together, the subject of marriage always comes up, and the teachers are constantly telling us: As a future Em Beyisroel, you'll have to... To tell you the truth, I'm sick of the subject.However, I noticed a paradox in the way Jews seem to view the marriage issue, and it's

TALMUD TORAH-----kollel 11

2007-02-13T17:52:00.000-05:00

trixies Posted - 24 August 2004 8:58 Mod, I understand your point perfectly, my only problem is; isn’t a woman's place at home, isn’t the reason that men wear tzitis and not woman bkz a man is out in the workplace and needs to be reminded that hashem is in charge whereas a woman is at home with her children? I think my mother was reading Rav dessler and he feels that women shouldn’t go

TALMUD TORAH-----kollel 10

2007-02-13T17:27:00.000-05:00

ponder2 Posted - 25 July 2001 20:12 For what reasons should a girl get married for? I mean according to the Torah only men have the obligation of "pru u'vru". MODERATOR Posted - 25 July 2001 20:17 First, even though women are not obligated in Pru Urevu they may be obligated to have children due to the Torah command of "sheves",

TALMUD TORAH-----kollel 9

2007-02-12T18:03:00.000-05:00

Blondie Posted - 08 June 2003 14:39 Okay, I always had this question about what to look for, btw I totally disagree with the person at the top who said if you don't know what you want yet it means you're not ready to get married. I’m just confused b/c I feel I would probably like to marry a boy who is working (or in school preparing to someday work), but who is very serious

MISC-----tenaim

2007-02-12T17:20:00.000-05:00

MODERATOR Posted - 04 September 2002 16:04 Here's a clarification to the above clarifications: Simply put, "tenaim" is an agreement that you two will get married. If you break up after that without getting married, you break your promise, and that is a problem. However, when a couple is married we hope they will stay married but there is no promise that a divorce will

LUBAVITCH-----atzmus umehus

2007-02-12T17:13:00.000-05:00

Shragy Posted - 28 January 2002 17:38 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What exactly is wrong with the proof that the Lubavitcher Rebbe said in his sichah about Atzmus U'mehus? He wasn't even speaking about himself; rather he was speaking about the previous Rebbe. He, in fact also said, that this is not being said as the opinion of chassidus,

HALACHA-----removing yarmulke & chillul hashem?

2007-02-11T11:55:00.000-05:00

Lizard Posted - 27 November 2000 14:02 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I wrote before you must have not got it. I asked about my 16 yr old brother who always makes a chillul hashem in public am I correct in telling him not to wear a yarmulka when he goes among non-Jews? MODERATOR Posted - 27 November 2000 14:05 ----------------------------

LUBAVITCH-----pop judaism

2007-02-11T10:56:00.000-05:00

aron Posted - 18 January 2002 16:49 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear Moderator, I'm not a teen anymore, but I wanted to ask you a question. How do you explain to someone who is not frum that even though Lubavitch is exceptionally dedicated to outreach, and they look frum, and they're friendly, that they are not actually representing

LUBAVITCH-----sukkah shalosh seudos mezuza etc 2

2007-02-11T10:39:00.000-05:00

Shellshoked Posted - 28 November 2001 19:35 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Moderator, I must tell you that there must be tons of Lubab teens “jumping ship” because of you. Lubavitch just started a number of very elaborate websites just to try and contradict what you say here! (I’m not going to write the addresses). They’re spending so much time

HALACHA-----eating lubavitcher shechita

2007-02-11T10:00:00.000-05:00

tess Posted - 17 January 2002 23:26 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- In my home we eat Lubavitch shechita when the butcher is out of the other types...but its not our first choice....Lifi halacha, if the shochet was a known "meshistic", is his shechita kosher? MODERATOR Posted - 18 January 2002 0:22 --------------------------------------

LUBAVITCH-----didn't rambam also have opposition?

2007-02-09T14:27:00.000-05:00

aJew Posted - 07 October 2001 20:35 I recently heard about this website from a friend, and I was so impressed when I visited it.However I was so hurt when I stumbled upon this conversation on Lubavitch. I am Lubavitch. I live in a large Jewish community with all types of Jews living together. I feel that I have grown up with a very balanced education - Lubavitch wise and Jewish wise.

TEEN ISSUES-----molestation rape and abuse

2007-02-08T18:05:00.000-05:00

montypython Posted - 27 December 2000 21:35 I was molested a few years back and it still haunts me now, sometimes. I was wondering if this has ever happened to anyone else on this board. I've been in group therapy, so I've met countless others like me, but never anybody religious. It just doesn't seem like the type of thing that happens to "nice Jewish girls." I know it's really

TEEN ISSUES-----public school?

2007-02-07T18:31:00.000-05:00

Lost Posted - 25 July 2000 12:56 I'm 16 going into my junior year. Im going to my third yeshiva in three years. Nothing seems to work out. When I was younger I wanted to learn but ever since 8th grade I haven’t enjoyed it. The yeshiva Im going to this year knows about my situation and the principle told me that if I don’t learn to his satisfaction (Ill be in his shiur so he'll know)

TEEN ISSUES-----eating disorders

2007-02-07T17:44:00.000-05:00

getting thin Posted - 19 July 2000 22:34 In order to be accepted nowadays you have to be thin -- it's just a fact of life. Not only guys but women also respect thin people much more than overweight.Being overweight is like a handicap nowadays and its worth a lot to get rid of it. How much would you pay to get rid of a handicap if you were blind or deaf? Being overweight today is the same.